Legacy

Silence

khadraworld — Sat, 11 Aug 2007 17:49:36 +0000

To those faithful viewers or those who bothered to check my blog regularly would have noticed I haven’t written a single new topic for months now…It’s funny, I wasn’t short of eventful moments in this past summer which I could have drawn a big topic from…In the beginning of this year, I had a sense that this year something major would happen to me, and I think I realized today what that is…It isn’t an outside change but a change within myself, in the core of who I thought I was…I started this blog, thinking it would be a place to express my thoughts and feeling, but I don’t think that was the whole reason…I feel as if I have been looking for understanding more than viewing eye for my materials…My school of thought has always been if you are honest about what you are feeling and yourself then people would have a chance to understand you and where you coming from…But the journey hasn’t panned out quiet that way…It worked out better, I have learned that in chasing a need to be understood by others I have lost sight of understanding myself….Now it is time to pursue me and what makes me happy away from everything and everyone I have used as a crutch…It would be hard to silence my outer-voice in order to hear my inner-voice but it is something that would be vital for me to do, to survive…As I write my last post here I wanted to say thanks for the opportunity to be heard and Goodbye…Khadra

Making short film

khadraworld — Wed, 30 May 2007 22:27:22 +0000

For the last several years, I have been thinking of making a short film piece, haven’t though decided whether it would be documentary or fiction or reality…Now i have found my camera woman to help me with this project, I have to figure out the format and style of this piece…I can’t figure out yet why I am undertaking this project or even considering it for several years now…Maybe I wanted to be an director at one time in my childhood and now as an adult, I am trying to manifest those dreams into some form of a reality…I think if I am able to do this project and be satisfied with it for myself, I believe it allow my adventurous-self to come out more and play…Next project after this, insha allah, I hope would be sky-diving, now i can’t wait for it….Bee bye till next time, Khadra

Women Concerns

khadraworld — Tue, 22 May 2007 16:44:14 +0000

I am dedicated this topic to any woman out there who reads my blog that is faced with a problem or a concern and doesn’t know what to do…This is a topic were any women or a men with a women problem can post question or a concern and hopefully receive a helpful suggestion or maybe even a solution to their troubles…One thing I have learned over the years that things seem much worse in our minds than they truly are and this is a chance for anyone who wants to take it to get things out of their heads…And you know what they say, two heads are better than one, in solving anything…I would love to begin this topic with an example of mine but at this moment I can’t seem to come up with a concern, Insha-Allah I hope that does not discourage anyone, because I am sure I would come out with something soon to share with you guys…Looking forward to reading your replies, bee bye Khadra

How to Raise Somali Children in America?

khadraworld — Tue, 22 May 2007 16:13:17 +0000

This past Saturday, I had the opportunity to attend a lecture about “raising Somali children in America” and the lecture was delivered by Sheik Hassan Jamici from MN. I was really quiet eager to know what this man would impart to us the youth and to our parents, who were included in the invitation and showed up in record numbers…And when I mean “record numbers” i don’t’ mean thousands of parents showing up like in certain cities, more like everyone who has children or lives in our city showed up, to hear the lecture…The Sheik’s speech primarily focused on some of the statistical data about issues facing Somaliyouth in this country…Alcohol, pre-marital sex, teen pregnancy, drugs, disobedience, homosexuality, and smoking….I think parents were surprised by the number of Somali youth involved in any of these activities, and for me that was sort of a good thing, it would give the parents an idea of the struggles facing their children and maybe be actively participating in their children’s lives…This lecture was definitely a broad look on some of the issues, but to be honest, I was looking for something more directional…Which i had the opportunity after the speech to speak with the sheik and make a suggestion of possibly returning to do a presentation focusing on five major things kids today are faced with…And providing a method of discussion between child and parent…Providing the answer to a child’s question in Islamic fashion and as accurately possible are important tools of upbringing and hopefully the sheik would return to impart those tools to the parents…Rather than just telling parents the problems, it would be more beneficial to provide some answers and positive resolutions to such issues…Overall I thought it was very entertaining and informative and a good first step toward proactive parent/child relationship…bee bye, Khadra

Settling Down

khadraworld — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 23:51:37 +0000

Well it’s Monday evening and I am still at work at 7:18 pm, so in these last few minutes before 8 pm I felt the need to write something down..So I thought for this time out I would talk about Marriage…If you are like myself, someone who is from a country in Africa and past the age of 20 years old, you have been under siege for a time now…It’s weird how strangers would ask me about my marriage or the lack of it and whether there are a potentials or not as opposed to my family (including uncles and aunts of both sides) leaving me to my own decisions…Last night, I was watching a film called “just married” and the movie was about two people who are involved in arrange marriage and their effort to get to know each others while on their honeymoon…Some people are lucky in that they get married without knowing each other and once they know each other they are compatible and work well together…And then there are those who get married thinking they know each other and they have no clue and their true personalities come out in the marriage…So i did a reach trying to figure out what is the best way to make a marriage succeed through Islamic means and others…In my Islamic research part, I was able to find the women’s role in a marriage and the type of the relationship she should aim to have with her husband…It didn’t give me an idea of what things would be good things to look for in a mate when making this serious commitment…I have found a book called “Falling in love for all the Right Reasons” written by the founder of e-Harmony, those in America would be familiar with that name, which the author discuses dimensions a person can use to determine whether a person is the right “soul-mate”…Alright those of you snicking at that term just simmer down…I thought it was really a good read, things for those of you, who are looking forward to getting married to get ideas of things that are important for them to discuss with their potential mate…If any of my readers have been through choosing a mate or anyone considering settling down and they have a list they use, I would definitely like to hear from real people and real experiences…take care, bee by Khadra

Second Revelation

khadraworld — Tue, 17 Apr 2007 12:53:53 +0000

On my second scheduled counseling session, I have discovered something new about words I have used interchangeably without notice before…Throughout my journey of creating lasting friends and what not I have always been accused often of having too high of expectation from people…And because of that I was doomed to have no friends at all in the end unless I was to change my standards…I am too stubborn to change now so it’s a mute point…But to go back to what i have learned in my session is that I really don’t have high expectation I just have values and look to people with similar high values…I never made the connection before between expectations and values and in a way it made be realize why I have always found it so important not to back down on my stands…Values like honesty, integrity, word of honor, respect are essential for me and when I thought of them as mere expectations, I was left at times questioning myself…But now looking at them as values to live by and to seek in others, it doesn’t matter anymore what people think or say…They either have it or they don’t…bee bye, Khadra

Fashion or Necessity

khadraworld — Tue, 10 Apr 2007 15:56:55 +0000

As I am finished with my workout routine and walked into the shower area, I had a thought pop into my mind, which had nothing to do with exercising…I have heard of and seen few women who go to college or university until a husband-to-be comes to whisks them away…What I am talking about are women, who are going to school not because they plan to have careers or work in professional job, but rather because they are not married yet and everyone else is a student, why not them too!!! Is the society pressuring these women, who aren’t interested in education, to pursue an academic life, so that when they say “oh I am a student” and not “oh I am just working and staying at home till I get married” people look at them more favorably!!! Are women seeking education for their own personal improvement and advancement as individuals or they really trying to occupy their time until they get married and then just be stay-at-home wives or mothers?…Is education looked upon as a necessity or fashionable pursuit?…If the intention of a woman for going to college is just to keep herself busy until she is married, should she really put herself in a financial debt so she can just to put a facade?

bee bye Khadra

Good Week

khadraworld — Wed, 28 Mar 2007 14:42:14 +0000

Well ladies and Gentlemen, I am having one of those best week ever…Well let me see, I don’t think I could ever say with absolute certainty because I don’t remember much of the past and don’t know anything about future…But at this moment of time, this week is a good week, and I am thankful for that…Often we worry about not having enough time to everything, but when you really sit down and think about, how many days of your own life span do you remember?…I have experienced changes these last few days which really taught me things about myself and what I want in life…And I wanted to say I am thankful for the experience and glad of what it taught me about myself…Till next time, bee bye Khadra

Relax and Tell me your troubles

khadraworld — Tue, 20 Mar 2007 14:02:10 +0000

Last night, as I was watching an episode of Law and Order, a thought occurred to me…I wonder if my insurance covers a visit to a psychiatric doctor?…Trust me I am not a person that bottles things up inside as a matter of a fact I talk too much or anyone I know would say so…It’s just that at times depending on those people you know and regularly speak to your conversation gets limited and I feel stifled…There are certain things I can’t talk to about certain people, maybe cause they wouldn’t get it or they would take it the wrong way…There is something interesting for me to speak with someone who doesn’t know anything about you and therefore you would be free to let sides of you not expressed before to come out…I am also fascinated by how a person of that profession would conduct their study into ones’ psychs…what are the questions to ask? what are the words to listen for? how to get someone to open to you?…I mean I learned from my own personal experience ones doesn’t talk to two people in the same manner to get results, you have to adjust yourself to the other person’s speed in order to get to know things about them…Who psychiatrist determines what is the best approach? is it instinctive and profiled in a very detailed manner before your first session?…If I was to have one super power it would have been the ability to read people’s mind although i see often those who have those power on TV tend to go crazy and live reclusive lifestyles…Maybe I wanted the ability to read the minds of only those I wanted to know what they were thinking of and not everyone…Thinking of it now, I think that’s why I talk too much, because I want the people to know what I am thinking no filtered no hold backs of any kind…But as I got older and my circle of acquaintances began to dwindle, my range of conversation begins to change too…And maybe it is that very reason which makes me today wonder why not go to psychiatrist and see where it leads!….Khadra

Las Vegas

khadraworld — Wed, 14 Mar 2007 16:14:46 +0000

Recently my sister, two friends, and I went to Las Vegas for Spring break…It wasn’t planned destination, as a matter of fact we were considering Atlanta, as a destination for our spring break…it was the first spring break we actually got away all of us, we always had either work or school obligations to keep us inbound during the week off…But as my sister searched we saw las Vegas package with a reasonable price and we thought great something different to do…Well having my mom give us concent to go for 4 days to las Vegas wasn’t difficult as one would anticipate for Somali parent…The it was a whole different story for everyone else we told our plans too…Responses ranging from “oh nice joke” to “what would you do there” or “it’s sin city”…But Las Vegas is much more than that as we learned from our trip…One must go there with an open mind and clear idea of what they want to do…I mean yeah you can sit at a slot machine for hours and gamble, but there are other choices too…We walked down the las vegas strip and saw New York, Egypt, Paris, and Italy…And it was amazing, it was like walking into a different world from one block to another…We saw fantastic water shows and a definite must see for anyone who visit Vegas…We saw architectural beauties and phenomenal scence and took a ride on a gondela while in italy…It was one of those trip for life and we shouldn’t judge book by it’s cover or in this case a city by it’s reputation…Khadra