I am dedicated this topic to any woman out there who reads my blog that is faced with a problem or a concern and doesn’t know what to do…This is a topic were any women or a men with a women problem can post question or a concern and hopefully receive a helpful suggestion or maybe even a solution to their troubles…One thing I have learned over the years that things seem much worse in our minds than they truly are and this is a chance for anyone who wants to take it to get things out of their heads…And you know what they say, two heads are better than one, in solving anything…I would love to begin this topic with an example of mine but at this moment I can’t seem to come up with a concern, Insha-Allah I hope that does not discourage anyone, because I am sure I would come out with something soon to share with you guys…Looking forward to reading your replies, bee bye Khadra
Archive for Relationship
Settling Down
Well it’s Monday evening and I am still at work at 7:18 pm, so in these last few minutes before 8 pm I felt the need to write something down..So I thought for this time out I would talk about Marriage…If you are like myself, someone who is from a country in Africa and past the age of 20 years old, you have been under siege for a time now…It’s weird how strangers would ask me about my marriage or the lack of it and whether there are a potentials or not as opposed to my family (including uncles and aunts of both sides) leaving me to my own decisions…Last night, I was watching a film called “just married” and the movie was about two people who are involved in arrange marriage and their effort to get to know each others while on their honeymoon…Some people are lucky in that they get married without knowing each other and once they know each other they are compatible and work well together…And then there are those who get married thinking they know each other and they have no clue and their true personalities come out in the marriage…So i did a reach trying to figure out what is the best way to make a marriage succeed through Islamic means and others…In my Islamic research part, I was able to find the women’s role in a marriage and the type of the relationship she should aim to have with her husband…It didn’t give me an idea of what things would be good things to look for in a mate when making this serious commitment…I have found a book called “Falling in love for all the Right Reasons” written by the founder of e-Harmony, those in America would be familiar with that name, which the author discuses dimensions a person can use to determine whether a person is the right “soul-mate”…Alright those of you snicking at that term just simmer down…I thought it was really a good read, things for those of you, who are looking forward to getting married to get ideas of things that are important for them to discuss with their potential mate…If any of my readers have been through choosing a mate or anyone considering settling down and they have a list they use, I would definitely like to hear from real people and real experiences…take care, bee by Khadra
Singles and In-Relationship
Probably many of us, males and females, have been in a situation were they were friends with someone who is dating or had single friends while they were dating…It is one of the hardest time on any friendship, when two friends don’t have the same relationship status, because it always seems the friendship takes a back burner to everything else…It isn’t the fault of anyone really or one person per say but i think people have this idea that one relationship must suffer for the other to flourish…Any friend worth their salt would definitely understand the time consuming efforts put on during the beginning of romantic-relationship and wouldn’t fault their friend’s for pulling the disappearing act…But it gets tricky after the beginning period…It seems, speaking from personal experience, that as a Somali we tend to keep our friends and our significant other separate…The common person doesn’t make the effort to introduce different personals from other aspect of their life to each other…Hanging out and arranging activities for your friends and your mate can eliminate any friction between those two sides…of course it can also go the opposite way, they can dislike each other and then what to do…But one wouldn’t really know until one tries it and if it doesn’t work it isn’t the end of the world…it would be exactly as before, your friends resent you for spending too much time with him/her and your mate would think you listen to them too much…Throwing away a cultivated friendship is awful and one should try to find solutions to problem not just ignore it and keep the “status quo.”
