I am dedicated this topic to any woman out there who reads my blog that is faced with a problem or a concern and doesn’t know what to do…This is a topic were any women or a men with a women problem can post question or a concern and hopefully receive a helpful suggestion or maybe even a solution to their troubles…One thing I have learned over the years that things seem much worse in our minds than they truly are and this is a chance for anyone who wants to take it to get things out of their heads…And you know what they say, two heads are better than one, in solving anything…I would love to begin this topic with an example of mine but at this moment I can’t seem to come up with a concern, Insha-Allah I hope that does not discourage anyone, because I am sure I would come out with something soon to share with you guys…Looking forward to reading your replies, bee bye Khadra
Archive for Family
How to Raise Somali Children in America?
This past Saturday, I had the opportunity to attend a lecture about “raising Somali children in America” and the lecture was delivered by Sheik Hassan Jamici from MN. I was really quiet eager to know what this man would impart to us the youth and to our parents, who were included in the invitation and showed up in record numbers…And when I mean “record numbers” i don’t’ mean thousands of parents showing up like in certain cities, more like everyone who has children or lives in our city showed up, to hear the lecture…The Sheik’s speech primarily focused on some of the statistical data about issues facing Somaliyouth in this country…Alcohol, pre-marital sex, teen pregnancy, drugs, disobedience, homosexuality, and smoking….I think parents were surprised by the number of Somali youth involved in any of these activities, and for me that was sort of a good thing, it would give the parents an idea of the struggles facing their children and maybe be actively participating in their children’s lives…This lecture was definitely a broad look on some of the issues, but to be honest, I was looking for something more directional…Which i had the opportunity after the speech to speak with the sheik and make a suggestion of possibly returning to do a presentation focusing on five major things kids today are faced with…And providing a method of discussion between child and parent…Providing the answer to a child’s question in Islamic fashion and as accurately possible are important tools of upbringing and hopefully the sheik would return to impart those tools to the parents…Rather than just telling parents the problems, it would be more beneficial to provide some answers and positive resolutions to such issues…Overall I thought it was very entertaining and informative and a good first step toward proactive parent/child relationship…bee bye, Khadra
Settling Down
Well it’s Monday evening and I am still at work at 7:18 pm, so in these last few minutes before 8 pm I felt the need to write something down..So I thought for this time out I would talk about Marriage…If you are like myself, someone who is from a country in Africa and past the age of 20 years old, you have been under siege for a time now…It’s weird how strangers would ask me about my marriage or the lack of it and whether there are a potentials or not as opposed to my family (including uncles and aunts of both sides) leaving me to my own decisions…Last night, I was watching a film called “just married” and the movie was about two people who are involved in arrange marriage and their effort to get to know each others while on their honeymoon…Some people are lucky in that they get married without knowing each other and once they know each other they are compatible and work well together…And then there are those who get married thinking they know each other and they have no clue and their true personalities come out in the marriage…So i did a reach trying to figure out what is the best way to make a marriage succeed through Islamic means and others…In my Islamic research part, I was able to find the women’s role in a marriage and the type of the relationship she should aim to have with her husband…It didn’t give me an idea of what things would be good things to look for in a mate when making this serious commitment…I have found a book called “Falling in love for all the Right Reasons” written by the founder of e-Harmony, those in America would be familiar with that name, which the author discuses dimensions a person can use to determine whether a person is the right “soul-mate”…Alright those of you snicking at that term just simmer down…I thought it was really a good read, things for those of you, who are looking forward to getting married to get ideas of things that are important for them to discuss with their potential mate…If any of my readers have been through choosing a mate or anyone considering settling down and they have a list they use, I would definitely like to hear from real people and real experiences…take care, bee by Khadra
Fashion or Necessity
As I am finished with my workout routine and walked into the shower area, I had a thought pop into my mind, which had nothing to do with exercising…I have heard of and seen few women who go to college or university until a husband-to-be comes to whisks them away…What I am talking about are women, who are going to school not because they plan to have careers or work in professional job, but rather because they are not married yet and everyone else is a student, why not them too!!! Is the society pressuring these women, who aren’t interested in education, to pursue an academic life, so that when they say “oh I am a student” and not “oh I am just working and staying at home till I get married” people look at them more favorably!!! Are women seeking education for their own personal improvement and advancement as individuals or they really trying to occupy their time until they get married and then just be stay-at-home wives or mothers?…Is education looked upon as a necessity or fashionable pursuit?…If the intention of a woman for going to college is just to keep herself busy until she is married, should she really put herself in a financial debt so she can just to put a facade?
bee bye Khadra
At last my own room
it has been years since I actually had my own room…For the past twelve years, i have been sharing my room with my younger sister…Even when we had an extra bedroom, my mother decided to make it the computer/guest bedroom…I can’t say I didn’t enjoy sharing a room with my sister, but i think it made me more lazier as an individual…My sister was like clean up everything, and knowing in my mind that she would do something about it if I waited long enough didn’t motivate me to do much work…Well early this year, she got accepted into a master’s program, in a city about an hour and half drive away…And finally i got not only the room but the whole house to myself, of course the responsibility that came with it…Despite the cleaning and everything else, and missing my sister terribly, I think it is fun to have a place to yourself to chill and do whatever you feel like.
